Recently I was lucky enough to be part of the organising crew at the world famous Tony Robbin’s Unleash the Power Within event. It was amazing – four days of transformational coaching delivered with humour and energy.
Whilst there, I had the opportunity to spend time with Gary King – a good friend of Tony’s, who is also a renowned leader in the personal development field. He told me about a global disease that is sweeping the planet affecting hundreds of millions of people all across the globe. To say that I was slightly alarmed at this stage would have been an understatement .
He went on, however, to explain that this disease was not the kind you took a course of antibiotics for but that many people self-medicated with alcohol, food, smoking or recreational drugs .What is this disease? Well it’s not one you will have heard of but I’ll bet you know someone who has it: N.E.D, or the Not Enough Disease. From the moment we are born and throughout our lives we are made to feel we are not enough.
Think back to the earliest childhood memory you have of being punished or reprimanded for something. Perhaps you drew on a wall or broke an ornament. Now remember what your parent or older sibling said to you. If you can’t recall the words think about how you were made feel when you were told off. You might have felt ashamed or embarrassed, or perhaps stupid and clumsy. Either way, the overall message you got was that you were not enough, not good enough, not smart enough or not well behaved enough. At school the conditioning continues as we spend time trying to attain grades in tests to see if we are good enough to get onto a further educational course which, if we pass, will determine our value as an employee. Our society is to a large extent based on the concept of making people feel they are not enough. Advertisers use images of slim tanned models to promote face creams and cosmetics and the end result is that millions of women receive the message that they are not good enough as they are and therefore must seek to improve themselves.
As a coach myself I often have clients who are ‘stuck’ in life. They want to take action and apply for a new job or find a new relationship but confidence issues get in the way and they are almost all suffering from NED. They will tell me the reason they can’t pursue their dream is because they are not pretty, handsome, brave, clever, tall, short, slim or curvy enough. Does this resonate ? If so I have some news for you. You are enough!
All of the conditioning and messages you have received are faulty because it was most probably developed by other people with NED, which is nothing more than a human construct. Next time you think you can’t do something because you are not enough, close your eyes and repeat to yourself ‘I am enough, I am enough, I am enough’. If you adopt this as your new mantra and tell it to yourself each day it won’t be long before you start to notice a positive change.